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Life Planning Date

Just do it!

I love the word “intentional” and I long to live every day of my life in an intentional manner. Unfortunately I am far, far from that. One discipline that gets me closer to living intentionally is having a life planning date with my husband. I am a firm believer in this and have had several people ask me about it so here is a slightly more instructional blog than what I usually write.  I hope it helps you to live a more productive, intentional, peaceful life!

My husband and I usually do our life planning date at the beginning of the quarter (January, April, July, October) but will occasionally do it more often. We plan on discussing the coming three months. You don’t have to wait until the beginning of the quarter and you don’t have to plan out three months ahead if that seems overwhelming to you. You can start small but I encourage you to start SOON.

  • You must leave your house!!! On Mondays I work through lunch and am done seeing patients around 2:30 so we like to have our life planning date during this time. Set aside two hours and pick a restaurant that has big tables where you can relax. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT attempt to have a life planning date at your home. Even if you send your kids away you will be too distracted and/or will not take the exercise seriously. Make this an event and something to look forward to. Maybe even go shopping or out to a movie afterwards (but not before!)
  • It’s important to have the right tools for the job. I recommend a legal pad, writing utensils and of course your calendar or planner (paper and/or electronic) Even if you are a very digital person I recommend having the legal pad and pen so you can scribble notes while you talk. You might have some great brainstorming moments!
  • Discuss what you want to accomplish. This is going to be different for everyone but here are some suggested topics to plan: kids activities, church activities, work projects, work trips, vacations, home projects big and small, financial goals, personal goals, holiday plans…
  • The goal is for you both to be on the same page and know what activities are coming up and who needs to be where and when. Hopefully you’ll both come away with a prioritized to-do list and an accurate calendar.

If you’ve never done something like this before it might seem weird or awkward at first. Your spouse (or you!) might think it’s a silly idea. I’m not sure what my husband thought about it at first but now I think he looks forward to it as much as I do. A note to my single friends: this can work for you too! I took myself out to dinner a few weeks ago because I needed to be very focused on making some lists and planning some important things coming up. Getting yourself out of your familiar environment and intentionally concentrating on tasks at hand can be very productive!

I hope this exercise helps you as much as it has me. There’s something very empowering about setting aside time to talk about goals, come up with a plan and walk away feeling prepared as a unified team. I would LOVE to hear about your experience with life planning dates! Share in the comments below!

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Work Week Devotion 09.25.2016

Proverbs 16:3

Proverbs 16:3 (NIV): Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.

Most of us like to have a plan. We have a goal and plan to get there. What do you do when life doesn’t go as planned? Do you throw up your hands in despair? Do you work harder to force your agenda even when it’s obvious that it’s not working? How many times have you had to look back, at best sheepishly, or at worst extremely thankful, that your plan was thwarted?

The key to God’s hand in your success is having His input from the beginning. Prayerfully set your goals. Commit your plans to the Lord. Work diligently, always seeking His leading. Be prepared to change the course even if it wasn’t in your original plan. Never forget that the One who establishes your plans has ways that are far better than ours.

All Knowing Lord, Thank you for having plans far better than we could ever imagine. Please send us reminders to seek Your will in our plans from the beginning and look for Your leading as we strive to achieve our goals. Please forgive us when we try to run ahead on our own. Amen.

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Tough Decisions

I had to call a snow day today. Now, as when I was a kid, I really like a snow day. But, I HATE having the responsibility of making the decision. It’s harder than you might think. And you’re always going to make someone unhappy. I guarantee it.

Let me give a brief synopsis of what calling a snow day at my optometric practice means. It means everyone gets to stay home BUT the office goes without revenue for a day and several families go without a day’s pay. It means we don’t have to worry about patients falling in the parking lot BUT some of these patients have waited a long time to get in for their exam and now they will have to take another time off of work to reschedule. There is ALWAYS someone who is very unhappy and is convinced that conditions “weren’t that bad” so we should have been open. Today in particular between two doctors we had thirty-five patients who had to be called (if we had their correct phone number.) That will be thirty-five patients to find another spot for in the next couple of weeks. We don’t have any free spots in the next couple of weeks.

I give you this glimpse of my world to say this: If you are a business owner (or any type of leader for that matter) you have to make some tough decisions. When I write about business I’m assuming three things. 1) You love what you do. 2) You love your team 3) You genuinely care about your clients/customers/patients and want to serve them. Even with these best of intentions, others won’t always understand your decisions and someone isn’t going to like your decisions. I promise. There are three specific groups of people who will have an opinion about your decisions. We all (business owner or not) fall into at least a couple of these categories ourselves.

  1. Family and Close Friends: It is so important to have a good support system. They mean well, but often can’t understand your unique decision-making issues. You’ll hear a lot of “Don’t worry about it” and “Who cares what people think” and “They’ll get over it.” Sometimes, this is good advice, but often we DO have to care what others think because it has lasting impact to our business and people are depending on us. It’s also difficult when those close to you think your ideas are just plain kooky (and let’s face it – sometimes they are) because entrepreneurial types just think differently.
  2. Team/Staff: This very important group of people often have inside knowledge of your business but don’t see the big picture like you do. They often see the money coming in but don’t have a real grasp of the cost of running a business. They see how business decisions relate to them, but don’t have all of the information to see how it relates to all the other interlocking parts. They may feel your decisions “aren’t fair” when you’re really doing the best you can.
  3. Clients/Customers/Patients: As consumers it’s all about “me.” We all do it. Your clients evaluate your decisions on how it affects them. They don’t know and often don’t care about taxes, insurance, regulations, operating costs or the other clients you are trying to serve. It’s wonderful when they DO take these things into account, and it does happen, but it’s not their job.

Do what you can to gently educate those you interact with on why you make the decisions you make. Sometimes they are judging based on mis-information or non-information. Make the best decisions you can to serve your business, your team and your clientele. Possibly the best thing you can do is find support in those who are dealing with the same things you are. Not to complain or have a gripe session but to find genuine camaraderie in others who are in the trenches just like you are.